There are moments when we’re afraid to start.
Moments where the feeling of being unsure about what’s going to happen next feels so overwhelming, that avoiding beginning (entirely) seems like the best option.
The moment when we feel afraid to start is hard. But the moment we recognize that our fear of beginning is stopping us from taking action is way more important.
When we’re afraid, but we can’t see it, we can end up feeling stuck without knowing why. But when we’re afraid to start:
the conversation about race we’ve been avoiding in the workplace;
responding when we’re sitting around the table with loved ones and someone says something that dismisses the humanity of another human being;
asking questions so we can gain a deeper understanding of the stories we’ve missed;
and we recognize that our fear is what’s keeping us stuck, that’s the moment we step closer to realizing that we’re standing in front of the doors of choice.
Feeling afraid and making a choice aren’t always the same thing. Once we begin to see the difference, we can loosen up our shoulders and make decisions that help us move through it. Suddenly,
that conversation we’ve been avoiding becomes a chance to practice finding our voice;
responding to our loved ones by telling them the truth about how their words affect real human lives (instead of feeling like we either have to change them or stay silent) becomes a viable option;
and listening to podcasts, reading books, watching documentaries, taking classes, listening with intention and joining the conversation become concrete choices we can make to deepen our understanding.
Being afraid to begin doesn’t have the be the end of the story. Recognizing that we’re afraid to start, and then deciding to make a conscious choice anyway, can help us get unstuck.