…tell the truth of your story. Because it’s in the telling that we find connection we couldn’t have found any other way.
Somewhere along the line, we concluded that it was just easier to hold it all inside. That the show of strength required to be able to get through the day was more important than the work of learning how to tell the truth of our stories.
But the task of pretending is a distraction from the process of building connection. When we’re consumed by the way we think things are supposed to be, or the way we believe our lives should appear, we lose track of the threads we all share. And as we slowly drift away from recognizing that every human being is experiencing life in myriad ways each day, we begin to conclude that the pain we experience, the questions we carry, the doubts we harbor, and the challenges we face must be dealt with alone.
Telling the truth of our story cuts straight through this fallacy, and helps to remind us that we’re not the only one. We’re not the only one with questions. We’re not the only one wrestling with learning how to live life with healthy boundaries. We’re not the only one who’s constantly learning, discovering, and uncovering areas where we need to grow.
We’re not the only one who’s lonely, who’s craving real, honest, connection without the veneer of pretense.
Take a moment to look around your life today. Ask yourself, Who are the humans in my life who are safe? Who are willing to be here in the ins and outs of life? Who are way more preoccupied with listening and sharing than with the performance of the way we think things should be?
And then tell the truth of your story. Because it’s in the telling that we find connection we couldn’t have found any other way.